Obligation

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zlegend

Discussion Starter · Mar 5, 2005

Okay, I am having a problem again. This one doesn't involve much money or anything wrong with my car, more of a personal matter.

My g/fs got me some seat covers for xmas. They are black and have a green tribal design, with a bio hazard sign in the middle, you've probaly seen them at any number of stores. I like a black and green contrast, my saturn was black and the covers looked pretty good in it.

My problem is now I have a SC Z w/ ash int, and I'm thinking that the covers would look kinda cheap in the car. I'm not sure if I'd want them in even if I had a SB, like i was planning on. But my g/f is getting offended that I don't want to put them in. So far my only arguement is that the exterior wouldn't look right with it.

Any advice? Should I put the covers in to keep my g/f off my back? Or should I leave them out to keep my good taste off my back?

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JTS2005

· #2 · Mar 5, 2005

well i think that we all have our own taste in what looks good and what doesn't. Just tell her that you want a different look (such as the leatherseats.com seat covers) in them that you saw on this site. i dont see nothing wrong with that, or just be honest and say that they just look cheap in the Z. hoesty might be the best way to apporach it, IMO

djkern

· #3 · Mar 5, 2005

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ditch the covers. if she's upset....well, tough. she'll get over it. are you supposed to keep every gift she's ever given you? if so...you'd still be wearing the ripped jeans that she gave you 10 years ago (hypothetical). get rid of them.

smoothz

· #4 · Mar 5, 2005

My solution would be to explain to her that it's the same as asking her to wear something you bought for her, thinking it would look nice, but that it doesn't match anything she has in her collection.

Tell her that you appreciate the thought (maybe take her out to dinner to show it), but The Z is a totally different car than the Saturn and requires a new style of 'fashion.'

Return the seat covers, because if I ever see your Z with those on, I'm going to have to :whip: you and your GF into shape. :lmfao:

djkern

· #5 · Mar 5, 2005

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i agree with the last comment. BUT, there is no need to suck up to her and take her out to dinner. there's no need to suck up to her and give her a in depth explanation why they don't (and shouldn't) go in the car. just tell her they are "old news" and they you don't want to put them in the car.

better yet...let the dog play with them for a while...maybe they'll get some holes in it. or, better yet...tell her the z's seats are bigger then the saturn and they don't fit.

but...leave the "take her out to dinner to tell her how much you appreciate it" bit out! smooth!! you're killing me here. haha. do you get stuck in these situations a lot smooth?

JTS2005

· #6 · Mar 5, 2005

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i'll be right behind smooth to if i see those on your Z :biggrin:

smoothz

· #7 · Mar 5, 2005

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i agree with the last comment. BUT, there is no need to suck up to her and take her out to dinner. there's no need to suck up to her and give her a in depth explanation why they don't (and shouldn't) go in the car. just tell her they are "old news" and they you don't want to put them in the car.

better yet...let the dog play with them for a while...maybe they'll get some holes in it. or, better yet...tell her the z's seats are bigger then the saturn and they don't fit.

but...leave the "take her out to dinner to tell her how much you appreciate it" bit out! smooth!! you're killing me here. haha. do you get stuck in these situations a lot smooth?

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No! You're killin' me! :lol: I'm trying to be the great diplomat and you're :xZ!o:

I've learned over the years that we all need to 'stroke' each others feathers and not be so pushy all the time. Many great women have taught me how to appreciate them, and one way is that if they're happy, then I don't have to hear them whine or nag me. :wink: No offense to the ladies, of course. I'm just speaking DJ's language here... :nana: :rolf2: :lmfao:

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djkern

· #8 · Mar 5, 2005

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i agree with the last comment. BUT, there is no need to suck up to her and take her out to dinner. there's no need to suck up to her and give her a in depth explanation why they don't (and shouldn't) go in the car. just tell her they are "old news" and they you don't want to put them in the car.

better yet...let the dog play with them for a while...maybe they'll get some holes in it. or, better yet...tell her the z's seats are bigger then the saturn and they don't fit.

but...leave the "take her out to dinner to tell her how much you appreciate it" bit out! smooth!! you're killing me here. haha. do you get stuck in these situations a lot smooth?

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No! You're killin' me! :lol: I'm trying to be the great diplomat and you're :xZ!o:

I've learned over the years that we all need to 'stroke' each others feathers and not be so pushy all the time. Many great women have taught me how to appreciate them, and one way is that if they're happy, then I don't have to hear them whine or nag me. :wink: No offense to the ladies, of course. I'm just speaking DJ's language here... :nana: :rolf2: :lmfao:
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once you get in the habit...it's hard to break. train them before they're in the habit of "getting something". haha!

i think the girlfriend is the one being pushy here. "put these in the car or i'll be upset". ya know? he can just be like "i liked them in the saturn...get me new leather seats (or sparco racing seats) for the z". and, it'll be all over. haha!

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toykilla

· #9 · Mar 5, 2005

tell her they do not go with the Z them and you like the stock seats

dave079

· #10 · Mar 5, 2005

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:werd:

djkern

· #11 · Mar 6, 2005

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Zlichus

· #12 · Mar 6, 2005

Guys, if you can't be honest about your feelings in a respectable, diplomatic way then you are whipped.

:whip:

djkern

· #13 · Mar 6, 2005

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YES! the honest truth coming from a female! i like you zlichus! i always look like a jerk to everyone else...but, i'm just not whipped!

Zlichus

· #14 · Mar 6, 2005

I'm a cold, hard facts kinda girl. I don't need bullshit to make me feel good. Honesty is the best policy.

But I have learned thru the years that a certain tact is needed when cutting someone off at the knees.

:swordfight:

It hurts more that way.

zlegend

Discussion Starter · #15 · Mar 6, 2005

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Thats the way I see things, clold hard facts.... the seats wouldn't look good so don't put them in. My g/f, however, is not. I don't want to hurt her feelings, its just not my way. But I have no intention of putting them in either. She'll deal with it.

I find that most the time I just need someone to agree with me. That way I know I'm not over reacting, which I have been known to do. No need to start a war over it.

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hehehehe, I always wanted to use the star wars smiley.

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jetpilot718

· #16 · Mar 6, 2005

Yeah Im gonna have to go with the honesty thing here.. my g/f is into modding her car also, and we both know better than to get each other car-related gifts without first being sure if I or she wants them.

Does she not have the reciept anymore? Why dont you two go to the store where she got them TOGETHER, and pick somethin else out. It will be less hurtful IMO, if it is at all.. AND she will see what kinda stuff your into for the Z.

FLZ

· #17 · Mar 7, 2005

"accidentally" spill some permanent, anything on 'em......

cedusett

· #18 · Mar 8, 2005

Be honest with her, but DEFINITELY don't tell her they look cheap. Just tell her you don't wan that look for the Z.

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